Now that my closet is under control and I feel less stressed I still have my kids closets to deal with. This has been an ongoing battle. I’m blessed with many hand-me-downs from older cousins, but it gets very overwhelming and I keep way too much. Now I have to figure out how to minimize the kid’s clothes. Part of the stress at the moment is that Arkansas Autumn is never consistent. Oh today is 80 we need our shorts and you say tomorrow it will be 50 OK let me drag out the coats. At the moment I have no solution. I need a new system. I guess admitting there is a problem is my first step:)
How do I minimize the kid clothes? Who has a good clothes system?
Part of my frustration with being busy and out of control is that my house gets out of control. There are five of us living in this space and I do the majority of the work in maintaining order. When the house is a wreck my mind is a wreck and I over exaggerate in my mind the craziness.
This has been an obvious problem for a while but since Thea was born I have pretty much been in survival mode. Now that all 3 kids are older they can take on more responsibilities when it comes to keeping order in the house. Now I have to work on letting go of control. Life and issues never end (until it does:).
My first step in restoring some order to the house was to tackle my closet. The #1 issue in our disorderly crazy house is CLOTHES. We DO NOT need this much. Ryan built me a great closet just after Thea was born and it’s just the right size for me to keep all my clothes for every season. Which means I can’t be a clothes horse. So, to help ease my craziness I have purged the closet!
This was how I decided what goes and never returns to the closet…
1. Do I have multiples of this?
2. Did I wear it the last season, if yes stay, if NO then GO
3. Is there still a maternity label on it
4. Do I always by pass this piece and move to something else
5. Does it complete an outfit or complicate it
I have never been able to consolidate my wardrobe, but when you’re tired of being out of control you’ll go to great lengths. I now get a lot of peace when I walk into my office (where my closet is). And instead of being frustrated about what to wear it’s now pretty simple cause there’s less to muddle through.
How do you keep your closet from getting out of control?
Currently I have a battle of digital vs. paper calendars/day planners. For years I lived by my paper planner. I looked forward every year to finding the perfect one. Then comes the iPhone and I’m ruined. I began to use the calendar app and quit my beloved paper. For a while I tried to do both but that was a hot mess. So, for the past 2 years I have strictly used my calendar app.
I’m really missing my paper planner and have had my eye on a couple that look really fabulous, but I know that I’m going to struggle with going back and forth with the fact that my phone is always with me but my planner is not. I’ve noticed that with my calendar app I don’t do as good of a job of looking ahead at what’s coming and I tend to miss some things that are actually on the calendar.
If I’m going to continue this journey of no more crazy busy I’ve got to make a decision on which tool is going to keep me accountable.
What works for you – paper, digital, or both?
The struggle to have peace in the midst of lots of activity possibilities is very real to me now. I’m not quite sure why I ignored it for so long. Worry and anxiety are now issues that are popping up when before it was just stress.
Now instead of piling the schedule full I’ve begun to become anxious when I feel like I’m starting to get over-committed. This is just as bad as saying yes all the time. I know quite well the verses in the Bible that specifically address anxiety and worry…
“And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life” Matthew 6:27
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is it’s own trouble” Matthew 6:34
My goodness why do I trade one bad habit for another? When I make wise decisions or when I add too many things too my plate worrying does nothing to help. If I’m going to continue on this journey of less crazy I have to leave anxiety out of the equation.
Tonight I spent a couple hours with 6 amazing women I don’t get to spend enough time with (minus the children). There were competing things that wanted my attention tonight but we actually put this girl’s night on the calendar and I wasn’t going to let it slip by.
In my search for simplifying I know that I’ve got to have more time with just the girls. I learn so much from all of them when I’m around them. Being around them makes me a better woman, mom, friend, and wife! They spur me on and make me laugh.
“Pray for me” “I need prayer” “I’ve got to pray”
“Pray about it”
These are phrases that can be very cliche and can be empty wishes and promises. What happens when I really earnestly pray? What happens when I don’t just say the phrase but I really talk to and have a conversation with God? When my schedule isn’t reflective of what I want it to be how do I use prayer to make the schedule less crazy?
I’m a firm believer that when I have a conversation with God He listens, He hears, and He has an answer. In regards to over packing my schedule I have some choices to make. I can pray BEFORE I put activities on my calendar or I can pray in desperation AFTER they’re on the calendar and I’m freaking out cause there’s NO TIME!
I don’t like the freaking out- out of control- what am I gonna do now feeling. It’s not how God wants me to feel or react. I much prefer the calm – collected – and cool approach. Praying BEFORE the activity is scheduled in gives me the opportunity to be calm and not crazy. Praying before I commit to the activity gives me time to listen to God’s direction. Praying after the fact only leads to the prayers of desperation – GET ME OUT OF THIS MESS!
I’m very tired of the prayers of desperation. I don’t want to spend all my conversations with God being in desperation. My conversations with my Creator should be WAY more than the talk of I can’t do this – I’m too tired – How do I get out of this.
Prayer before I commit has changed my ability to make wise and informed decisions. It’s also reminded me that I don’t have to give immediate answers to everybody. If an immediate answer is needed it will have to be NO until I can pray about it. This response is perfectly acceptable. America’s demand of immediacy doesn’t have to rule my calendar.
How do you use prayer to determine what you do and what you don’t do with your tiime?
“Wisdom is either displayed or betrayed by our actions.” -Lysa TerKeurst The Best Yes
Matthew 11:19 “Wisdom is proved right by her deeds”.
The word Wisdom has been popping up all over the place lately. That’s a sign I need to listen. Wisdom doesn’t come easily for me. I have continually ask for it and I have to continually practice what it looks like. I can’t be wise if I don’t practice wise things. I want to be consistent with de-stressing and unstuffing my schedule. To do this I have to practice making wise choices with my time.
I have to know when to add activities not to. Sometimes I’m going to need to say yes even when I feel like it’s packing the schedule. Sometimes God is going to use a packed schedule to work through me or teach me. Hopefully more times than not He will use me through a de-cluttered schedule.
This is where the wisdom comes in to play. If I’m practicing the wise choices I’m going to see when it’s wise to add more things in, even if it feels uncomfortable. If I’m practicing wisdom I’m going to protect my time and schedule to honor Christ first not wear me and the rest of my house slap out! My actions are going to show if I’m wise.
Does wisdom come easily for you? How does wisdom play into your schedule making?